Feb 29th Let's Talk: Guys in our life

Happy Monday! My weekend was fantastic. I spent time with some of my favorite people, my parents! More to come on our activities later. I didn't want to miss the opportunity to link-up for Let's Talk.

I questioned whether or not I should link-up for this post. I'm not dating anyone nor am I married. What could I have to contribute? But I thought this would be the perfect opportunity to talk about how I'm dating myself. Yes, I said it. I realize that can come off as selfish but I think at 23 in a position where your life has changed a lot, it's okay to be selfish.

 

If there's one thing I could go back and tell my younger self, it would be...learn to make yourself happy because you're the only person you can never escape. Wow. Think about that. We are the ones who have to live with every quirk, every insecurity, every negative thought, etc. Instead of focusing on what you're lacking, how beneficial would it be if we took the time to fall in love with ourselves? 

 

There's a huge piece of my story that I haven't blogged about yet. I just recently got out of a relationship for 6.5 years. We met when I was 15 years old and dated throughout high school and college. He was a huge part in shaping my story during some of the most formative years of my life. And equally as important, he shaped my expectations of who I deserve. I haven't blogged about him out of respect for him and his family. But I could never speak a bad word about him, he was one of the kindest humans I've ever had the pleasure of knowing, much less loving. But the problem that ended up breaking us? I wasn't happy enough with myself to be in a relationship any longer.

 In a society where divorce and struggling relationships are rampant, what's the rush? We have so much life ahead of us. Being in a relationship with myself I expect to...

1. Dig deeper into what I want from life

2. Find my career path, that I enjoy

3. Make mistakes

4. Grow from my mistakes

5. Travel

6. Lean on God

That's just the tip of the iceberg. 

I know that by becoming more comfortable with myself that when God brings the right man into my life, I'll be ready. I'll be ready for the love, the sacrifices, the struggles, and the joys that come with a marriage. 

So the take away from today...whether you're already in a relationship or looking for the right person, your life will be enriched if you first learn to love yourself. I would love to hear what y'all think. 

Have a great day and see you back here soon! xo