Monday, February 29, 2016

Feb 29th Let's Talk: Guys in our life


Happy Monday! My weekend was fantastic. I spent time with some of my favorite people, my parents! More to come on our activities later. I didn't want to miss the opportunity to link-up for Let's Talk.

I questioned whether or not I should link-up for this post. I'm not dating anyone nor am I married. What could I have to contribute? But I thought this would be the perfect opportunity to talk about how I'm dating myself. Yes, I said it. I realize that can come off as selfish but I think at 23 in a position where your life has changed a lot, it's okay to be selfish.


If there's one thing I could go back and tell my younger self, it would be...learn to make yourself happy because you're the only person you can never escape. Wow. Think about that. We are the ones who have to live with every quirk, every insecurity, every negative thought, etc. Instead of focusing on what you're lacking, how beneficial would it be if we took the time to fall in love with ourselves? 


There's a huge piece of my story that I haven't blogged about yet. I just recently got out of a relationship for 6.5 years. We met when I was 15 years old and dated throughout high school and college. He was a huge part in shaping my story during some of the most formative years of my life. And equally as important, he shaped my expectations of who I deserve. I haven't blogged about him out of respect for him and his family. But I could never speak a bad word about him, he was one of the kindest humans I've ever had the pleasure of knowing, much less loving. But the problem that ended up breaking us? I wasn't happy enough with myself to be in a relationship any longer.

 In a society where divorce and struggling relationships are rampant, what's the rush? We have so much life ahead of us. Being in a relationship with myself I expect to...

1. Dig deeper into what I want from life
2. Find my career path, that I enjoy
3. Make mistakes
4. Grow from my mistakes
5. Travel
6. Lean on God

That's just the tip of the iceberg. 


I know that by becoming more comfortable with myself that when God brings the right man into my life, I'll be ready. I'll be ready for the love, the sacrifices, the struggles, and the joys that come with a marriage. 

So the take away from today...whether you're already in a relationship or looking for the right person, your life will be enriched if you first learn to love yourself. I would love to hear what y'all think. 

Have a great day and see you back here soon! xo
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24 comments:

  1. That was very real. I don't think enough young woman learn that lesson and it does affect your marriage. Thank you.

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    1. Thanks for your kind words and for reading! I hope you have a great day!

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  2. I love this because this was my exact mindset when I found Tripp. It wasn't a priority, I definitely wasn't looking so I met Tripp with just friendship intentions and that made our relationship so comfortable from day one. It's all about you during this time in your life and I promise that the more you enjoy it, the easier it will be when you met your fella! Love yourself because we all love you!!
    Linds @ Not A Mom

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    1. It's so funny how intertwined our posts were today! I love it. Also, I love that you were in a good spot to find love. Thanks for your encouragement!! xox

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  3. These are great words!!! I did a bible study on this very thing back in college but cannot remember the name. I remember from that study that a man isn't going to complete you. You should be complete on your own and he should compliment well. Thanks for sharing your heart, today!!

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    1. Thanks for your kind words and for reading! I agree with your Bible study...a man should be a compliment to the person you already are :)

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  4. I LOVE this post! Thank you for sharing !!!! Have a great week !

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    1. Thanks for reading, Kimm! You're the best!

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  5. Girl. You know I am ALL about focusing on yourself sometimes. Especially this season of life that we're in where we don't have any other responsibilities. Such a great post and such a great spin on it!!! Hope you find all that in more :)

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    1. Thank you, Molly! I'm so glad to have found blogger friends who are in the same phase of life as me! I hope you find your more too :)

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  6. Happy Monday Lauren. Great post and I am glad your embracing your life "so young". Way back when I was a college, I was told that men (boyfriend) were desserts. You and Jesus are the meals, the "nutrition". The man comes along to complement you. I was too busy looking for a boyfriend to make me whole - it just doesn't work that way. Have a great day. (Sorry if my analogy was off...)

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    1. I love that analogy! How true is that!? I might have to use that for some of my friends. Thanks for your constant positivity in your comments. It doesn't go unnoticed!

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  7. I love the quote about teaching daughters to be somebodies instead of somebody's. A needed perspective these days.
    I too was wrapped into a relationship with a good human for an extended period of time that didn't fully allow me to be me. Its worth it to take the time to learn and love yourself. You might be surprised at what you find:)

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    1. I couldn't agree more, Camille. We are so complex so taking the time to learn what makes us tick is so important. Thanks for reading!! xo

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  8. I just love this post. So many amazing quotes. It's crazy to think how "you're the only person you can never escape". I love your words!!

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    1. I'm so glad you liked it! It was a risk to post this but I'm so happy you enjoyed it! :)

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  9. Loved this post! Whether single, dating, or married you definitely have to love yourself and be the best you possible to live a fulfilling life, glorifying to God! Thanks for the great reminder- I loved reading this! :)

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    1. Amen, Maddie! Being the best you is so important! Thanks for reading

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  10. How wise you are at 23-- I think I spent most of my 20s learning that lesson! You are way ahead of the curve :) Liz familyoffoley.wordpress.com

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    1. Having a serious relationship early in your adult life speeds up the maturity process some :) Thanks for your kind words! xo

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  11. Aww Lauren i love this! You are so wise for 23. (I'm 28! You make me feel old.) but this is such a great message. Proud of you! And how cool that Erika left you a message!!

    Miss you friend!

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    1. Haha I've always been an old soul :) I'm glad you liked it and thanks for coming back!! Miss you back!!

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